Tuesday, September 05, 2006

Sometimes there are no answers

Sometimes I don't have any answers; I don't think any of us do.

A former shipmate of mine experienced an awful loss last week; his 22-year-old son died in a diving accident in the Gulf of Mexico.

I can't imagine losing a child; somethings in the world don't make sense.

From his memorial obituary:
Chandon Lee McGrath, 22, of the 500 block of Fountain Lake Dr., passed away Aug. 29, 2006, in the Gulf of Mexico.

He was a native of Virginia Beach, VA, a graduate of Kellam High School, and had found his passion as a Commercial Diver employed by Chesapeake Bay Diving. Chandon was a unique individual who was miraculously able to live more life during his 22 years of living than most live in a lifetime. He lived a life of abundance in all that he did; he loved deeply, cared for his friends and family enormously, and had an incredible joy that he carried wherever he went! He was a courageous young man who refused to be bound by the limitations this life tries to impose, instead choosing to take risks necessary to live his dreams. His life challenges us all to seriously consider what is really important in this life and pursue it with all our hearts, like he did. He was an inspiration to all of us while we had him, and he will always challenge us all to live, to really live and chase our dreams with passion! For the lessons that he leaves with us, we will always be eternally grateful to you Chandon!

He is survived by his parents, Michael and Karen McGrath, and Woody Norris; three brothers, Patrick McGrath, Noah McGrath and Jimmy Lee Norris; and one sister, Candace McGrath. He is also survived by three wonderful sets of grandparents who he was blessed to have, Thomas and Caroline McGrath, Luther and Jane Baynor, Berlyne Norris, Archie Merrill (deceased), and Woodrow Norris; along with a very large, extended family of aunts, uncles, and cousins and friends.

A funeral will be held at 11 a.m. Wednesday at Beach Fellowship with Rev. Michael McGrath and Pastor Ray Bjorkman officiating. Burial will follow at Colonial Grove Memorial Park. The family will receive friends at the Hollomon-Brown Funeral Home, Kempsville Chapel, Tuesday from 6 to 9 p.m. Condolences may be offered to the family at www.hollomon-brown.com.
My wife was surfing MySpace and came across Chandon's MySpace profile. This is becoming a phenomeon, although in many cases the site belongs to someone who committed suicide. Chandon's site has become a memorial site with friends posting messages since his death. Here's one post:
I just wanted to tell you that sandbridge was beautiful today... soo many people showed up and did the paddle out and it was absolutely beautiful. i know why you liked surfing so much now because like everything else you did it looks like you made an impression on a lot of people. Just talking to ya leaving you a little bit of love.
There are no answers, but there is community and love in these whisps of electrons.

1 comment:

  1. Peter,

    My friend. No words indeed can possibly describe what we've been through. We've gotten through the funeral part and are trying to begin to adjust to life without our oldest son. Very difficult indeed.

    Unfortunately for us, this is probably only the beginning. As we try to adjust we find ourselves having to gear up for what appears to be a long and arduous process of trying to discover what happened on that fateful day. There aren't really any guarantees that we'll even get any answers, but we hope we will.

    Thanks for remembering us and our beautiful son. Mike